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I Always thought that marriage sites are a BIG SHAM

Posted by ssjha on August 10, 2005

I am a gr8 NET SURFER….
May be the reason being that i am having a free Net on my college room.
but then don’t think that i surf anything to everything.
my favorite being the Indian news sites and all other reading suff.
Being voracious reader i used to read all the news sites and other related material in COUPLE OF HOURS. So what to do in spare time…(i dont like mail and emails on which some of my friends spend good time.). During this dilemma some one said that why not search the brides for our friends……….. after many bakars we started searching the sites for ours room -mates(Don’t beleive that we were looking for good ones for ours pals..)
During these time it came to me an idea why not seriously go through all these profiles and “Time Katto”.
Indeed it was a good time pass…… there were many profiles that aroused my curiosity and will BLOG on them some time Later.

Right now many of my pals have got the habit of “ORKUTTING”(orkut.com).
i also find it good….Anything that GOOGLE does has to be interesting(On a second thought what would the MARRIAGE SEARCH would look like through Google search. Will thery be able to stop the Spams…..i think that they would atleast do a better job than the rest of them.(see what they have done to mail system…… Giving a whopping 1GB at a time when others were giving 2-4 MBs.

Okay i have gone too far now below is the post because of which all these bables started..
Sham marriage sites:


you can see the blogger at :
http://o3.indiatimes.com/MarriageBeuro/

My experience with New Age Arrange Marriage
?Hrishi you are 27 now, you should get married now…? My Mom…. Said worriedly … For her son like me who is done with Engineering and MS in US with lots of M in dollars.. still unmarried was surprise… though I was little hesitant…
I had have had few dates to whom I was looking after in my early 20’s .. now all of these gals got married , and started thire families..
So I had no option but to enter into arrange marriage ‘market’. Here your value is more into your cast and salary…
I was hesitant to go with traditional marriage beuro’s…. So i opt out for Shaadi.com and Jeevansathi.com…
Fortunately my mom enrolled my name into one of the leading local marriage beuro’s Anuroop Wiwaha Sanstha in Pune (
www.anuroopwiwaha.com)
I Started looking after gals online thru shaadi/jeevansathi…. My experience was pathetic…
I recieved close to 200 praposals thru these means.. 60 % of them were fake….
They charged hefty 2750 rs…. We had no time to look at those 200 praposals…
So I decided to search on my own…. I found few gals with my matching criteria …. later I realized all these
paposals were fake….. My advice dnt go for shaadi.com…. its all fake.. they will just screw u up with ur money..
Fortunately Anuroop Wiwaha lend me heling hand, they organized pre-marrital councelling sessions.. Also Mr. Mahendra Kanitkar, Director Anuroop gave some good practical tips…
In few weeks I recieved 11 praposals… all are decent educated cultured girls…
2 months I reached my destination, again Anuroop helped us with thire quick service…
Now I am happily married with my beautiful, cultured and understanding wife Anuradha…
Just for advice…. dnt jump into marriage market….
make sure u recieve “true praposals“ and not fake one ( these matrimony portals will give u 90 % fake data)

Happy match,mate finding…….



PS:
i see many sites advertising that they have made so many perfect marriages.
anybody knows them personally.Also i couldn’t understand whay the Shaddi.com people were asking for money…………..

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Adult most of the times see their childhood in their Children

Posted by ssjha on August 10, 2005


Below is the rumblings of an Adult who sees his childhood through the eyes of her 2 year Daughter
I personally dont have experience (i have no child and am unmarried and an Indian).but i think that every one one day or the other goes through the emotions.
i think that i have seen may people LIKE THAT.


YOU CAN VIEW THE BLOGGER AT
http://o3.indiatimes.com/I_Me_Myself

Last night, I was watching my two-year old daughter trying a karaoke – to sing along (she is too young to talk) with the TV. That was an interesting sight. She was trying her best to beat that female vocal (I’m sure she will do that one day). Then the promo changed to some other movie and she was not interested. So she turned back, and saw me smiling. She gave back a big smile and trotted away to her mother in the kitchen.
Time flies…
I remember my childhood days when I was very much impressed by – who else – Amitabh. And that song ‘Ek Raasta Hai Zindagi…’ from Kaala Patthar (shot on Shashi Kapoor, not Amitabh) was my favorite. I used to be the centre of attraction while singing that song. Soon thereafter, came the ‘Laila O Laila’ from Qurbani, and that won me the third prize in singing competition in my school. I still remember the picture book I got as my prize, though I tore off the book in the next few days. That way way back in 1980-81 and I was probably in my first standard.
Then I went to second standard and dad got transferred to Visakhapatnam. New school, and I was the boss in my class (also a bully, I must admit). Anybody who dared to disobey me was done for. Since my school had classes only upto third standard, I was one of the seniors (imagine!) and a darling of those teachers (yeah, those beauties were young and unmarried, but unfortunately too old for me – one of them was married and her kid was my junior). I was good at studies, or let’s say, others were not very good. As a result, I stood first in everything that I participated – be it studies or games. Then there was a skit – Snowhite and the Seven Little Dwarfs – and I was the hunter who was assigned the job to kill Snowhite. Even if it were not a skit and even if they paid me a million dollars, I would never kill that beauty (I hope my wife does not read this). I would rather kill the woman (my teacher, that fatso) who gave me that role.
Then I went to IV standard and changed my school. Now I was among my equals, but still a smart guy. I was one of the best, if not the best of the best. I had many admirers around me, and so some rival groups were formed. We used to have fistfights and anybody found alone separated from his gang used to face the warth of the rival gang. We lived the life as in the movies – perfect (only the ladies were missing and we longed for them).
Then time passed and one day I found myself updating my knowledge of the Bollywood. I was perfect in this field, or at least I thought so. I was still in the school and destined to become a hero some day. But nothing much happened.
Then I went through the school and finally through college. I knew everything (so I believed) about the movies, the glamour world, the new beauty in the college that would some day fall for me (she was our lecturer)…
No, nothing is funny. I really believed in myself. If you laugh at me today, then you have probably forgotten your yesterday.
Thereafter, it was the Chartered Accountancy course that took the better part of my youth. And one day, I was a CA. Then came the first job and the first salary. I was the king – on the top of the world. The richest man ever on the earth. I could buy that stereo, the walkman, those ‘costly’ cassettes which my pocket money never allowed, and what not.
But when I looked back, I saw many unfinished agenda. How come I was a CA when I should have been a movie superstar? I had everything that takes to become that superstar (except for a Godfather who could make me the superstar; why, I once even thought of running away to Bombay – I had a relative who could do at least something for me…)! Why didn’t that lass fall for me? How could she get married to another person that she didn’t know (read “I didn’t know?)? She should have talked to me, at least once. She never talked to me when we were in the college (never before and never thereafter). She could have asked for my phone number during the farewell. She could have taken some pains to get it from others…
I don’t even know her name till today. OK, let bygones be bygones. I’m happily married, have a family of my own. And no longer aspire to be a superstar (well, give me a chance and I can still become one).
Why am I thinking of all this? Simple, because I think I was stupid to have such a thinking. I should have acted like a grown-up and should have rubbished all those ideas when they came in my mind. Like any other parent, I would never let my children make a fool of themselves. I’ll take care that they behave like grown-ups, even if they are just two year olds. They should start early…
NO! I won’t do that! Back then, I really believed in all that I thought, though all that might seem stupid today. That was a part of my growing up. Those dreams were worth dreaming at that time, and I shall never be that innocent ever again in my life. Those are my sweet memories, stupid sweet memories. My children will go through all that on their own. They will go through the joy, the ecstasy, the heartbreak on their own and go through every emotion that life can give them. I’ll always be available if they need me, but I won’t ever interfere with their thoughts, their feelings. I might not make a good father, but at least I’ll not be a bad father – a bully – for my children.
Go ahead, my child. Sing along, for probably I’m too old to sing that song – Doom Hila Le Doom Hila Le Doom…
Or is that Dhoom Macha Le…


seems that he he not that young afterall
Later on i will add more BAKARS On child life…….
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Shopping with Hubby

Posted by ssjha on August 10, 2005




Well i may tell you that i am neither female nor married…….
then surely the next logical question would be…… “toh phir title ka MATLAB”
IT happens so that i came through a blog of a newly married lady.
it’s her musings.

NOW WHY HAVE I ADDED THAT HERE………..
for the simple reason that the lady gave her side of story and reading here can get the reason for wild (NOT)Shopping spree……

it can be found at the following link.
http://o3.indiatimes.com/anu3001/

The Blogs Goes at Under

Last week my husband and I went to M.G. Road. How we landed there is a different story altogether that I will narrate some other time. There were a lot of sales happening, this being August, and my sole purpose was to window shop, become familiar with the market, and kill some time, in that order. Accordingly, we entered a KSIC showroom. There were yards and yards of lovely silk sarees and, as any Indian lady would vouchsafe, it’s a natural impulse to check out each saree in its six-yard splendour, feel its texture, and glance at the price tag. While I was still rapt in this magical silken world, hubby broke into my reverie with a “Do you want to buy this one?” I gave him a bewildered “Of course not!” look.
Men!!! Just because a man admires a beautiful woman, it doesn’t mean he’s going to marry her. Similarly when a woman admires a dress in a store, it doesn’t necessarily follow she’s going to buy it. Most shopkeepers who are male cannot understand why a woman may sometimes admire a thousand dresses and yet not buy one and at other times may buy a dozen outfits off the rack without giving them a second glance. The truth is, apart from impulsive or compulsive shoppers, most women are smart enough to know what to buy and where. Many of them will rarely buy anything from a new shop the first time they visit it — unless they are on a holiday. Women like to scout shops and compare their stuff for future buys. Men, on the other hand, are likely to pick the first thing they see at the first shop.
Coming back to my story, my husband, soon as he realised I had no plans to actually buy anything, wanted to get out of the shop as quickly as possible. He finds it “embarrassing” to look around a shop without buying anything whereas I find it perfectly natural to reco the market before buying what I want. That day was a revelation to both of us — we learned a few things about each other that were hitherto hidden. (Those who plan to get married should go on a shopping binge with their intended life partners before making the final commitment. :) They may yet discover a few secrets. ) My husband, like most men, needs to justify every action, even something as trivial as shopping. So if he goes to a store, he has to buy something to show there’s a reason why he went to the store in the first place and why the trip isn’t a waste. Women thankfully don’t need to justify anything.
We rounded off our sojourn with a stop at Kidskemp. One persistent saleswoman there kept trailing us all over the place, showing off their various collections. I would have much preferred to look around on our own but, out of sheer courtesy, we let her guide us. It was then I realised how easy it is to browbeat a guy into buying something totally useless. No wonder women are able to sell everything from cars to shaving cream! So this time it was I who hastily dragged my husband out of the store.
P.S. Have you ever wondered why in a store having a sale the one thing you want is either not on sale or is selling at the lowest possible discount?

so, what’s the lesson….
don’t ever go shopping with urs lady love if u don’t feel embarrased in not buying…….
(on a private not i will agree that yes some times we buy something utterly useless)
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XXX – The Next Level (Good candidate for the worst movie in 2005)

Posted by ssjha on August 10, 2005

A film that should be retitled xXx2: Don’t Say We Didn’t Warn You.
If someone asks me to complete the review in single sentence then I would complete the task by sayingDerivative, uninspired nonsense but may please the male Saturday night crowd that it is clearly aimed
at

Watching this film is like being with your current beau and yet constantly reminded of your ex. We all know that Xander Cage (Vin Diesel) is not the xXx in this show, and he’s being replaced by Darius Stone (Ice Cube). Heck, I think the producers make the mistake of killing Xander Cage – mentioned in the movie as being killed in action in Bora Bora, Afghanistan, because in my opinion his character makes an excellent action hero.But while Xander Cage’s an extreme sports person, Darius Stone is more ’’in your face’’, given his military background in covert ops, with a penchant for some fries and a shake. The original film’s delivery is more subtle, more elegant, while this one’s more direct and in a way, nothing different from another action flick.

Plot If i can say that goes as Ice Cube is Darius Stone, former INS agent now in prison. He needs incentive to cooperate with the request for his assistance, and it comes in the news that someone is out to wipe out him and all former members of a group. So, either sit in jail and wait to be killed, or get out there and help hunt them down first.

The original was best in terms of special effects and action stunts the sequel is that much boring.I guess law of average working here Yeah.

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Meaning of love at different times

Posted by ssjha on August 10, 2005

Another One From Indiatimes

The young teenager, newly in ‘love’, sends a SMS to her school crush from PVR complex- ‘Do u luv me?’

‘Of course’ the reply is fast.

‘How much?’ goes back the message.

‘2 much’ short n crisp.

‘How much, I asked’ fast n furious

‘More than my bike, my Nokia 750i, my iPod’ the ultimate!

‘More than Aakriti?’ Take that.

‘Hmmm. I gottago’

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The newly married wife asks her husband of 3 months, ‘Do you love me?’

‘Sone do, yaar. Tang mat karo’ says the sleep-deprived husband.

‘Batao na, please. How much do you love me?’ says the wife in her lovey-dovey voice, throwing some water drops from her hair in filmy style, washed with the last drops of her maika-ka-shampoo. (BTW, Do these women have nothing better to do in the morning than to wash their hair and keeping them open for the rest of the day? Bad hair day, then they say. For us MCP husbands, it sure is)

‘Kya hai? Sone bhi nahi deti. Raat ko bataya to tha’

‘Ek baar phir batao naa’

‘Ek Baar phir? Bataoon?’

‘You have a one-track mind’ As if she has a 8-track stereo kind.

‘As much as …..mmmmmm. Shit Yaar, woh flat ki instalment bhejni hai aaj. Mar gaya. Tum bhi bekaar ke sawaal poochchti rehti ho. Aur koi kaam-waam nahi hai kya?’

‘Shaam ko jaldi aana’ eeeeeeeeeeeeee! Women!

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How to make effective Resume

Posted by ssjha on August 10, 2005


A GUIDE TO MAKE AN EFFECTIVE RESUME’
A résumé is nothing more than a slick advertisement. But an important one, especially in today’s job market. A top quality résumé is essential to your success. Is yours good enough to grab an employer’s attention? Companies have hundreds of job seekers vying for open positions.
Take this quiz to see if your résumé would be picked out of the competition:
1. Is your résumé one page?
Brief, one page and concise works best. Employers scan résumés with a 15-20 second glance. Be a skillful editor, emphasize your more recent experience in the last five to seven years and use different résumés to target different job titles.

2. Does your resume catch attention?

Your resume is all an employer has when they start the screening process. And employers report that most résumés get only a 15-20 second glance. If you don’t capture their attention quickly, they pass you by and call in someone else for the interview.

3. Have you included the ‘Summary of Qualifications?

You will be surprised that only about 5 percent of résumés contained this key section.

Be sure that your résumé has this essential section. It comes right after your name, address and career objectives. Adding this triples your impact, and employers reported that this was one of the very first areas they read. And if the briefly stated summary demonstrates solid ability to fill the advertised job, it catches their attention and they slow down and give the applicant more careful consideration.
Think of it as mini-outline of you: a highly influential summation of the specifics you bring to the job. This section usually consists of four to six sentences that present an overview of your experience, accomplishments, talents, work habits and skills.

4. Have you lied, mis-represented or un-necessarily exaggerated?
One caution – employers complain that many people lie on their résumé. Exaggeration! Misrepresentation! Lying is a deadly error. Don’t do it! Employers ask more questions and do more background checks now than ever before so when you get caught, and sooner or later you will get exposed, you’ll likely be fired. Solid facts and verifiable experience should highlight your actions and accomplishments.

5. Is your resume computer-scanning friendly?
In today’s high-tech world, computers are changing the way people work. The human resources industry is no exception and a crop of products has been developed that help HR managers sift through the stacks of résumés they receive. What this means for job seekers is that the first person who reads your résumé may not be a person at all, but rather a computer.
These days, companies to find the right candidates are using computer programs; they are called applicant-tracking systems. There are many types of systems, all with varying degrees of sophistication. What these systems have in common is the ability to quickly scan résumés and pick out the candidates that should be considered further. These systems work by searching résumés and applications for pre-set keywords that are requirements for the job. They work on paper and electronic résumés and applications. If you mail your paper résumé, it will be fed through a scanner and turned into an electronic file that can then be viewed by the system.

6. Does your résumé describe results and accomplishments?
Employers want proof that you can do the job. Specifics that demonstrate your accomplishments are crucial. Show what you have increased or decreased, how you saved money, and contributed to the productivity and bottom line.
7. Is your résumé visually appealing?
The appearance of the résumé cannot be overemphasized! Use high quality paper. Watch your spacing and margins. Allow for lots of white space and borders. If necessary, make use of italicizing, capital letters, underlining, bolding, indentations and bullets to emphasize your important points. Use a computer and get a laser printed copy of your résumé to give it a sharp, professional look. When sending a résumé electronically, e-mail it to a friend and have them forward it back to you so you can see how it looks. Sometimes the formatting gets jumbled around and you will need to rework it.

8. Have you proofread your resume?

You will be surprised how many typing and other mistakes creep into resumes, probably due to callousness, laziness or sheer hurry. Proofread – make your résumé a perfect example of you!

A. DO minimize interruptions by turning off your phone, turning away from your computer, and closing your door. Breaking your train of thought could result in missing words, poor edits or missed typos. Some successful communicators minimize interruptions by leaving their offices or cubicles in order to proofread their work.
B. DON’T proofread alone. Always ask someone you respect to proofread your document after you’ve reviewed it. As the author of the document, you may not see obvious mistakes that others will spot right away.
C. DO focus on one word at a time. Go slow. Make sure each word is spelled correctly. If you’re unsure, look it up.
D. DON’T think about what the words mean. If you think about meaning, you’ll see what you expect to see, not what is actually there. This is especially true when reviewing your own writing.

SOME MORE COMMON MISTAKES:

Corporate recruiters say you’d be surprised at how many candidates leave out important facts, such as the names and locations of companies where they’ve worked, or include too much information
Is your resume working for you or against you? Here are some signs it may be time to tweak (or toss) your résumé:
1. No Career Summary/Introductory Statement Most hiring companies don’t have time to match unspecified résumés to open positions, so lead off with a career summary, introductory statement or a covering letter that makes it clear what type of position you are seeking and why you are qualified for the job.
2. Lack of Keywords and Phrases To pass through a company’s applicant tracking software, your résumé must contain the keywords and phrases it is screening for. These words are not the verbs stressed in paper résumés, but nouns such as job titles and technical skills.

3. No Evidence of Your ExperienceYour résumé should not merely list the jobs you’ve held; it should provide specific examples of how you achieved success. Résumé-writing professionals recommend using the PARS formula: Describe a Problem, the Action you took, the Results you achieved and Skills you applied.
4. Use of Personal Pronouns and ArticlesWith just one or two pages to sell yourself, make each word count. Write in a telegraphic style, eliminating all personal pronouns and articles like “the,” “a” and “an.” Removing the “I,” “me” and “my” from your résumé not only frees up space, but also creates a subliminal perception of objectivity.

How to send your resume?

There are a number of things you can do to enhance your ability to make it past the first round of electronic screening:
1. Start with e-mail, follow up with paper:
The best way to deliver your résumé is via e-mail. You’re better off with e-mail, because at least you know it will get there. He says that a paper résumé can still make a good impression, and that you should follow up your e-mail with a paper copy, at least for the jobs you really want. Use the fax as a last resort, as faxes do not come out clear and are difficult to scan.
2. Keep it simple:
Because your résumé may be scanned, it is important to keep your formatting simple. Avoid italics, underlining, fancy or large fonts, and anything else that could be misread. If you are sending an electronic copy of your résumé, create a plain copy of your résumé that leaves out any bold terms or bullets and uses a standard typeface, such as Arial or Times New Roman. Plain résumés also work better on company or job search Web sites that require you to cut and paste your information.
3. It’s all about key phrases:
Once again, the most important thing to remember is the importance of keywords and phrases. The trick is tailoring your résumé to answer the company’s job description or help wanted ad. You have to understand how recruiters work. They look for critical skills in the job description, as must haves. Therefore, make sure your résumé includes those same keywords. Carefully read the description and write your résumé specifically for that position. Every résumé has to be customized. Plain vanilla is no good anymore.
4. Conduct a dry run:
After you have created your résumé, e-mail yourself and a friend a copy to see how it appears in the e-mail. This will give you the chance to fix the formatting and edit the document once more before you really hit the “send” button.
5. Re-apply:
Most systems allow recruiters to sort résumés by date received, and that many recruiters will limit their searches to the most recent résumés. Therefore, it pays to send an updated résumé or edit your profile once a month. If your résumé has been in a company database for more than 30 days, you can be absolutely sure it will not be seen. If you’ve posted your résumé to Internet or industry specific job search sites, you should also consider updating it periodically.

IN SHORT:

We’ve all been through it.
The waiting — endless waiting — for the phone to ring with the hope that, maybe, just maybe, one of the résumés you sent out this week will get through to the right person… and he’ll like what he sees.
There are things you can do to land that all-important first interview. As the old saying goes, you only have one chance to make a good first impression. And the résumé is it. Here are his tips for creating a phone-ringing résumé:
Know your strengths: Do some serious soul-searching. Know the kind of job – and company – that you want. Know your strengths… and acknowledge your weaknesses.
Demonstrate your value. Fill your résumé with facts that jump out at the recruiter. Avoid empty boasts that can’t be quantified. A chronological résumé with bullet points that highlight previous results and successes is preferable. You’ve got to show how you’ve contributed to a company’s bottom line and how you’ve added value.
Be truthful. Falsehoods get discovered and you should always use your actual dates of employment.
Be choosy. Don’t send your résumé blindly to every company out there. Do your homework and decide whom you want to target. Look into a company’s history and its goals for the future, and how it plans to accomplish them.
Be the solution. Try to find out where the company’s ‘pain’ is… and then you’ll know how to position yourself as a solution. Show how you can add value to their company by showing some awareness of their business and their marketplace. If you can position yourself as a possible solution to their problems, you’ve got a very big step up on the competition.

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